As a revert to Islam it always surprises me when I witness ‘born’ Muslims acting in a way contrary to Islam. For example, KINDNESS; in Islam plays a vital role in how Muslims should treat others.
For example, in the Qur’an, Allah (s.w.t) states:
“O Messenger of Allah! It is a great Mercy of God that you are gentle and kind towards them; for, had you been harsh and hard-hearted, they would all have broken away from you” (Quran 3:159).
Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) was commanded to treat others with kindness (be gentle). We have to do the same. One sahabi (companion) of Prophet Muhammad states,
Anas, who was his helper, said: “I served Allah’s Messenger for ten years and he never said to me, ‘Shame’ or ‘Why did you do such-and-such a thing?’ or ‘Why did you not do such-and-such a thing?'” (Bukhari, 2038).
Everyday I overhear Muslims doing the very thing Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) never did. Aren’t we supposed to be following the sunnah of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh)?
An area where all Muslims and non-Muslims can improve on would be our relationship with our wife or husband.
Once Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said to his wife: “0 ‘A’ishah! Never turn away any needy man from your door empty-handed. 0 ‘A’ishah! Love the poor; bring them near to you and God will bring you near to Him on the Day of Resurrection”.
He also went much further on to say: “Seek me among your weak ones, for you are given provision, or you are given help only by reason of the presence of your weak ones”. (Rahman, Encyclopedia of Seerah, VOL. VIII, p. 151)
We need to speak calmly to one another. Remind each other in a gentle way. Lastly, we need to treat all women with respect, with kindness.
Bahz b. Hakim, on his father’s authority, said that his grandfather told him that he had asked Allah’s Messenger to whom he should show kindness and that the Prophet had replied: “Your mother.” He asked who came next and he replied: “Your mother.” He asked who came next and he replied for the third time: “Your mother.” He again asked who came next and he replied: “Your father, then your relatives in order of relationship” (Abu dawud, 5120).
Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) gave one final reminder before he passed away.
Treat women kindly, since they are your helpers; you have your rights upon your wives and they have their rights upon you. Your right is that they shall not allow anyone you dislike to enter your bed or your home, and their right is that you should treat them well. (from the Farewell Sermon of the Prophet)