assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
Whomsoever Allah (s.w.t) guides no one can misguide and whomsoever Allah (s.w.t) misguides no one can guide…
Today, we are going to talk about a subject that many people skip or ignore. I would like to remind myself as well as brothers and sisters in Islam. Allah (s.w.t) describes in Qur’an,
…Nor backbite one another; would any of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would abhor it. (Qur’an 49:12)
So I ask, would you like to eat the flesh of your dead brother or sister? If so, seek repentance and ask for forgiveness.
I am sure 90 percent of the people reading this won’t be able to do what I am about to ask; Allah (s.w.t) knows best.
Backbiting is a major sin and ever single person including myself, has been a perpetrator concerning this sin. At some point in all of our lives, we have committed the sin of backbiting. So firstly, I would like state the definition of backbiting…
Abu Dharr (ra) once asked the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him): O Messenger of Allah, what is gheebah? He replied: It is to mention about your brother that which he detests.
Abu Dharr said: O Messenger of Allah, what if that which is mentioned of him should actually be in him? He replied: Know that when you mention that which is in him, you have committed his gheebah, and when you mention that which is not in him, then you have slandered him.
Even listening to backbiting is a sin. Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) once said to Ali (ra): O Ali! When someone hears the backbiting of his Muslim brother committed in his presence, yet he does not rally to his assistance despite being capable of doing so, God shall humiliate him in the world and in the Hereafter.
We have addressed the definition. I would like to discuss a few more points.
I would like to ask, is backbiting more of a sin than adultery? Yes or no? When you commit adultery you can ask Allah (s.w.t) for forgiveness and Allah (s.w.t) can forgive you but when you backbite someone, Allah (s.w.t) cannot forgive you unless the person you spoke ill of forgives first.
Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) once gave counsel to Abu Dharr (ra), saying: O Abu Dharr! Beware of backbiting, for backbiting is graver than adultery.
Abu Dharr (ra) said: Why is that so, O Messenger of Allah? Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) replied: That is because when a man commits adultery and then repents to God, God accepts his repentance. However, backbiting is not forgiven until forgiven by its victim.
So, I ask should we commit the act of backbiting? The answer is simple yet difficult. Backbiting is a struggle in which we have to confront our ego and pride showing humility.
In order for Muslims, myself first and foremost. I have to ask for forgiveness from the people whom I have backbitten against. May Allah (s.w.t) forgive me. Ameen!
We need to approach people with humility, whether it is a phone call, text, or an email. It is difficult to approach the people whom we have backbitten against but it is possible. Ask for forgiveness and when you are forgiven, you will feel better wallahi.
Imagine the opposite occurring, you are standing in front of Allah (s.w.t) and your book is opened. You look to your right and see all the people whom you have backbitten against yet never asked for forgiveness.
How will you feel? You are watching all your good deeds transfer to the very people you backbite against.
You can start, make a plan. Speak to 1 person every couple days and ask for forgiveness. Maybe they will reject or maybe they will forgive. To some you might look small but in front of Allah (s.w.t) you will stand lighter.
May Allah (s.w.t) accept our repentance, continue to bless us, lessen our struggle, and bless us with pious children. Ameen!